If you visit any social media forum devoted to cruising on family-friendly lines like Carnival and Royal Caribbean, you inevitably see someone post about dress codes. Often, somebody asks about wearing shorts in the Main Dining Room (MDR) and that sets off a veritable tidal wave of responses.

Some people are outraged and horrified that someone would want to not have to dress up for dinner. They will angrily tell the wannabe-shorts wearer to go eat in the buffet and not to dare show their bare legs in the MDR.

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There are, of course, some more rational voices who make it clear they don’t care what others wear, and some folks who claim to not care, but do believe that passengers should “follow the rules.”

Technically, both Carnival and Royal Caribbean (RCL) have a policy of not allowing shorts in the main dining room. In reality, these rules are rarely enforced and anyone wearing anything other than a bathing suit is rarely turned away.

Enforcing a dress code puts ship personnel in a difficult position. Asking a passenger to change can lead to anger and confrontations, and in many cases, is simply more trouble than it’s worth. 

Still, the policies remain on the books, even though both Royal Caribbean and Carnival generally ignore them. That made it somewhat surprising that Carnival Brand Ambassador John Heald actually addressed the topic on his Facebook page.

Carnival’s Heald speaks out on dress codes  

Heald actually addressed his cruise line’s dress code in response to a question about what topic he would love to never have to address again. “

“Dress Code. Yep, as controversial as that may be, it would be my choice,” he wrote. “Ihate sodding dress codes, I really do.”

Heald shared that some dress codes were simply tricky and hard to understand. 

“Earlier this month we sent out invitations to the naming ceremony of the Carnival Firenze where the dress code was ‘Italian Chic.’ And some of you who were invited asked me what that meant. My reply was I had absolutely no clue whether that meant ‘formal’ or ‘a Speedo and a pair of Versace Crocs,” he wrote.

Heald acknowledged that Carnival should make a decision on its dress codes and actually stick to it.

“Before I finish this opening post I do want to say that we have to decide what we are going to do, try and enforce the dress code we have or well, not,” he shared.

The brand ambassador closed by sharing his own opinion, making it clear at least for this part of the post, he was not speaking on behalf of Carnival.

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“This is my opinion and does not represent Carnival’s opinion or indeed yours. You see, I can’t stand dress codes because what does it matter what someone wears? I feel sure that many of you disagree and that’s OK, I respect your opinion. But, to me, they’re irrelevant. And they’re especially irrelevant when you are on vacation and where the only thing that should matter is the Fun you have and not what others are wearing,” he added.

Carnival passengers speak out on dress codes

Heald’s post, as you might imagine, was an invitation for people to share their opinions on the dress code, and over 700 people weighed in.

“I love to dress up for dinner but I realize it is not for everyone. I was a nurse and in uniform for years so I take every opportunity to wear a nice dress or formal wear when on a cruise. Unfortunately, I fear no guidance on the expected dress code could lead to dressing gowns and swimwear at dinner, some people will push boundaries wherever they are. I am all for people being comfortable but there still need to be some rules in place in my opinion,” wrote Tina McGinily.

Most respondents took a similar “there should be some standards approach, but some also suggested that dress codes are an outdated concept. 

“Surely it is time for the dress code to go as it has and will continue to divide opinions. What someone chooses to wear doesn’t ever put me off my food. I say banish the code and let people wear what they want (as long as they wear something),” shared Andrew Nutter.

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Many of the posters took a to each his own approach.

“What people choose to wear is fine with me. Some people get all worked up about what others are wearing instead of just enjoying themselves and their vacation,” posted Pam De Marco.